How Are You Getting in Your Own Way?

Question 1 of 8

When you think about making a bold move, at work or in life, what happens first?

AI start researching everything I would need to know before I could possibly begin

BI think about what everyone else will think or say

CI make a list and feel better, but the list never quite turns into action

DI start planning but keep adjusting until it feels perfect enough to share

EI feel a pull toward it and then talk myself out of it, wondering who am I to do this

Question 2 of 8

Someone gives you a genuine compliment about your work. What is your instinct?

ADeflect it. Point to luck, timing, or the team

BFeel pleased but immediately wonder what they want from me

CAccept it, but immediately think about how I could have done it even better

DFile it away and move on. There is still too much to do

EFeel genuinely good for a moment, then forget it by the end of the day

Question 3 of 8

You have an idea you are excited about. What stops you from putting it out into the world?

AIt is not quite ready. I need to refine it a little more first

BI get busy with other things and it stays in my head

CI genuinely wonder if anyone cares or if it is as good as I think it is

DI worry about how people will receive it or what they will think of me

EI plan to do it and then find myself doing something easier or more urgent

Question 4 of 8

An opportunity comes up that excites and scares you equally. What do you do?

AResearch it thoroughly and feel more prepared, but somehow never quite apply

BThink about it seriously, then get distracted by something else that feels more pressing

CTalk myself out of it. Someone more qualified will get it anyway

DStart preparing an application but keep revising because it is not good enough yet

EWonder how others will react if I go for it, and let that shape my decision

Question 5 of 8

When you think about articulating your value, what comes up?

ADiscomfort. It feels like bragging or like I am overstating what I actually bring

BI can do it, but only once it is polished enough. My draft version feels exposing

CI worry it will come across wrong or that people will judge me for it

DI want to get it right so I keep researching what others say before writing my own

EI know I should do it and keep meaning to, but something always gets in the way

Question 6 of 8

Finish this sentence: The thing that most often stops me from moving forward is...

ANot feeling ready or prepared enough yet

BWorrying about what others will think or how it will land

CKnowing it could be better if I just had a little more time to refine

DNot being sure I am the right person to be doing this at all

EGetting busy and letting the important things slip behind the urgent ones

Question 7 of 8

How do you typically respond when you receive feedback that stings?

AI replay it and use it as proof I need to work harder on being better

BIt confirms what I already suspected about myself

CI wonder if they still like me or respect me after saying it

DI research how to address the gap and build a plan to fix it

EI mean to reflect on it properly but life moves on and I never quite do

Question 8 of 8

If the change you want stalled completely right now, what would be the most honest reason?

AI kept preparing and never actually launched anything

BI let other people's opinions or reactions shape my decisions more than my own judgment

CI stayed busy but not on the things that actually mattered

DI never felt like what I had was ready enough to put out there

EI talked myself out of it because I did not believe I was the right person for this

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